Don’t worry, you don’t have to read this unless you don’t want to. 😛
This is my essay/rant I talked about in my last post, which you should read now if you haven’t already done so. Be warned that I’m not all smiles here and there will be some mentioning of times when I was *gasp* horrible at trading.
So I’ve noticed certain people (not naming names) being rude to other people or not giving them the respect they deserve because these people don’t have as many rare items as the harassers or because the targets have a different chat or something else like that. Seeing people act like that kinda gets on my nerves because we were all like that once.
Yes, even me. 😛
Believe it or not (though you probably will if you’ve read my Throwback Sunday post I posted last month), this was how I looked about two years ago.
Now, I’m not saying the rarity of 95% of BV items hasn’t changed over two years. I get that the bear code trick in 2013 and the various items coming back to BVO this year really changed the playing field. But I’d just like to say that, in late 2012, I traded a Floral Bow Dress in default dark blue (not exactly a color you see all the time, but not super-rare, because in 2012 the chances of me getting super-rare items/colors was about the same as the chances of you winning the lottery) for a Week-End Dress and thought that was fair. And that’s just the beginning. For the most part I was completely oblivious to rarity until maybe the middle of 2013. All I knew was that bunny was rare, BBL was a pain to get unless you traded bunny, and white BBLs were NOT as rare as their colored counterparts. (Which I learned the hard way.)
If you’re wondering how I even managed to get my hands on bunny, it’s because it was given to me back in February 2010, and then I went through a long process involving some BBLs to try to get bunny back after trading it away. Receiving bunny (and sash and other things) instead of having to work for it really kept me from being able to grasp the concept of rarity, other than…
Grand? Impossible. BBL? Impossible (until June 2013, at least). Furry? I had those, but I had had to trade a lot for them, because this was 2012, when furry was a lot rarer than it is now.
I had maybe five old BVO items that were from the Bear Boutique, and not a lot of these items were even wanted (I remember having to spend months trying to trade away a Heart Button Skirt or something that looked really, really ugly).
As for friends, I preferred to keep to myself, which I would continue to do until when I met Katie and Heather in March 2013. Well, I kept to myself except for if someone wanted help with a BV video. Here’s the very first BV video I was in (AFAIK). I was so excited to see it, but then I learned I couldn’t watch it on my phone.
Anyway, back to friends. Due to my lack of trading knowledge, my unwillingness to join any forums (long story there), and my tendencies to NOT talk a ton while talking with a friend, I had a series of friends without bunny glasses who did the following:
- Become my friend.
- Get bunny glasses.
- Get other rare items.
- Get forum/YouTube accounts.
- Get new friends.
- Stop spending time with me.
- Quit BV altogether.
I went to BABW pretty much every day, but I was pretty damn invisible.
I was on the outside looking in.
Just like the people that other rare people seem to like to make fun of, so, please, don’t do that. Because those people are more interesting than you think they are, and if you give them time, they’ll blossom and flourish in their own ways. 🙂
I was going to end this essay/rant here, but it looks like I’m not quite done yet.
I think I’m going to put this in another post, though, since my blog’s anniversary is coming up and this kind of has to do with that. 😛
One final thing: Just compare these two pictures for a minute. Now, tell me: if you didn’t know these were both me, would you think of them as being the same person? 😆